So, I made a list ...
Own a business. Have a child. Out of debt. Own a dog. Own a home.
So, I had a list ... but I had no plan.
I was 21. The fun was over. Time to decide ... What do I want to be when I grow up? I had a degree in Business ... but no job (and nothing on the horizon.)
I had a list ... but absolutely no idea how to go about accomplishing anything on it.
In a time in my life when all seemed gray and hazy, one thing was clear ... whatever was to come, be it greatness or failure, pleasant or somber, simple or foreboding ... I needed Julie by my side, in my corner, cheering me on, each step of the way.
I have a hard time putting into words exactly what makes Julie unique to me. I think the answer lies in our differences. Julie loves to be with people, to talk to them and hear their stories. I tend to hide in the crowd. She listens and reacts to people with true empathy. That is something that has always escaped me. She makes an impression and leaves a mark with many that she meets. I can typically fade off without a trace. Being a person who tends to be very private and introverted, I am left in awe at how Julie can draw people close to her and really make an impact on them.
It is a cliche, I know, but it is so true that opposites attract. I think that it can be a truly uniting relationship when two people, who are seemingly so different, use those differences to become "whole". "AND THE TWO SHALL BECOME ONE FLESH; so they are no longer two, but one flesh." (Mark 10:8)
Julie and I hold common values; respect, caring, compassion. I think you need to have core values in common with someone to use as a base when trying to navigate through your differences. Now, not to mislead you, it has not been all candy canes and lolly pops. We have had to work really hard to keep things moving in the right direction over the years. We have maneuvered past college (where we dated for 3 years), the loss of a parent, the birth of a child at a relatively early age, crazy work schedules, moving to a new and unfamiliar city, opening a business, twins, closing a business. But through all of that I think we are as strong a couple as ever.
Our pastor put it best when speaking about his marriage, that no matter what happens (with certain and obvious exceptions), or how bad things might be right now, you can't have an exit sign hanging over your marriage. If you love and respect each other, and you were sincere when you spoke 'till death do part, then you should be able to handle just about anything. I think that it helps our marriage to have this mentality. We know we are here for the long haul.
So what else can I say?
I love my wife. I love how she laughs. I love how beautiful she is. She is a wonderful mother. She is my best friend and I can't begin to describe what that means to me.
It continues to amaze me, no matter how I may mess up, she continues to show me love and grace. She continues to be my greatest fan and number one cheerleader.
So, I had a list ... 11years ago ... and today, 10 years since our wedding day, I still need Julie by my side, in my corner, cheering me on each step of the way.
